My Real Life Stay At Home Mom Schedule with a Toddler and a Newborn
Are you a stay at home mom that wonders how other stay at home moms manage their day? I am too!
I’m mostly curious to see if there’s anything I can learn from other moms to help my day go a little smoother because, let’s be honest, the days can feel REALLY long sometimes. There are lots of days that end with me counting down the minutes until my husband gets home.
However, there are good days too! Days that go better than others and I’ve found that those are the days where we all stay busy and remember to be flexible.
Right now is tough because there is a newborn involved and some days, she runs the show. However, I have still found that if I follow somewhat of a routine, it helps all of us.
Here is a peek into my day and how I manage a three month old baby and a three year old (without going too crazy):
5:00am – Wake up time!
Now, this wouldn’t be so early if I didn’t have the baby but typically she is waking up around 5:00am for a feeding. After feeding her and playing with her for a bit, she will fall back asleep.
6:00-6:30am – Coffee break and “me” time.
During this very short time that they are both asleep, I always start with some coffee. Then, I either wash bottles from the nighttime feedings, clean up anything I left from the night before or just sit and watch TV by myself for a bit.
6:30am – Toddler is awake!
We usually sit on the couch together and watch one of her favorite TV shows while she wakes up. Daddy is off to work!
7:30-8:15am – Breakfast is served.
Now, I say 7:30 very loosely. I try to always cook a nice, healthy breakfast for my toddler and I which includes eggs and fruit, so I need some time to do this. Therefore, the time I start making breakfast really depends on if the baby is still sleeping. She usually sleeps until about 7:30 so I start cooking anywhere between 7:00 and 7:30. My toddler then takes about half an hour to eat.
8:15-10:30am – Feeding and awake time for baby and free play time for toddler.
By now, the baby is usually awake and it’s feeding time. She will typically stay awake for about an hour. When she’s awake, I really try to focus on her by playing with her and talking to her as much as possible.
While I am busy with the baby, my toddler entertains herself with either toys or an activity I set up such as painting or Play-Doh. This part of the morning is free play time for her. On some days, this is when we will head to the park but honestly, after the baby was born, this has been happening a little less often than I would like. At the very least, I try really hard to keep her off her iPad and away from any kind of screen. (Check out my post, Five Educational Toys that Keep My Toddler Busy, to see what our favorite free play toys and activities are.)
10:30-11:00am – Snack time and preparing toddler for nap.
This is when I try REALLY hard to get my baby and toddler to take a nap at the same time. Honestly though, that only happens about 25% of the time but hey, a mom can try right? 😊
What realistically happens is that the baby usually falls asleep around 10:00/10:30. As she is falling asleep, my toddler has a snack. Then, she is off for a nap around 11:00am.
11:00-1:00pm – Nap time for toddler (and maybe the baby on a really good day).
Most of the time though, the baby is awake during some of this time. When she is awake, we do the normal feed and play time. When she isn’t awake, I usually take this time to make myself lunch and clean up whatever needs cleaning from the morning.
1:00pm-1:30pm – Lunch time for my toddler.
She usually wakes up anywhere between 12:30 and 1:00. Once she is awake, I make her lunch. If the baby is awake, I put her down in the swing to get this done. (If there’s one item I can’t live without for my baby, it’s her swing. She loves it just as much as I do. I love that it has a mobile, some music and a mirror to entertain her safely while I step away.)
1:30-3:30/4:00pm – Get my toddler outside! Free play time again for toddler while newborn takes a long nap.
The baby has been taking a longer afternoon nap which gives me some time to focus on my toddler. This is where we try to get outside! She loves being outdoors and has the best imagination. You really don’t need a fancy playground or a bunch of outdoor toys. My daughter can entertain herself for quite a long time with just some chalk and some bubbles.
Here is where I also do some activities with her that require my involvement. My daughter has been very eager to learn how to write her letters and numbers so this is the time where I try to do some more educational (early preschool) activities with her.
4:00-5:00pm – Screen time for toddler while baby is awake.
I know most parents are against screen time and I would LOVE to be able to keep my kids away from TV or iPads too but that’s just not realistic for me. Plus, I’ve found that there are a lot of educational TV shows and apps for the iPad that really do help teach my toddler different skills.
During this time, my toddler is allowed to either watch TV or play games on her iPad while I take care of the baby and also start preparing dinner.
5:00-5:30pm – Dinner time for toddler and baby is usually still awake.
While my toddler eats, I try and finish making dinner for my husband and I. Unfortunately, we don’t all eat together since my husband gets home really late most days. I am working really hard on changing this though because I would personally like to make all of us eating dinner together a priority. For now though, my daughter eats before we do.
6:00-7:00pm – Bath time.
During this time, I try and give my toddler a bath. If I’ve finished making dinner, then I spend some time playing with both the baby and my toddler until my husband comes home, which is usually close to 7:00pm.
7:00-7:30pm – Toddler and baby (if awake) spend time with Daddy while I use this time to clean up the kitchen and the rest of the house.
7:30-8:00pm – Bedtime routine for toddler with Daddy while I take a shower.
My husband is in charge of putting my toddler to bed. This has been great because it gives them some quality time together since he is gone most of the day. He helps her brush her teeth, they read some books and he puts her to bed.
While he does this, I usually take a shower. If the baby is awake, I will stay with her until my husband can take over watching her. I used to hate taking showers at night and still would much rather shower in the morning but I’ve found that it is much easier for me to get it done while my husband is home. This way, it doesn’t take much time for me to get ready in the morning.
After 8:00pm, we finally get some alone time! We are both usually exhausted by this time and typically watch a little TV together and are in bed by 10:00pm.
That’s a typical day for me! However, as much as it looks like I may have a set routine, things can definitely throw this off. For example, some days, the baby just doesn’t want to sleep at all. These are the days that can really test my patience because I feel torn all day between the baby and my toddler and also can’t stay on top of cleaning up or cooking but I try to remind myself that I will get through it because I always do.
How about you? What does your day look like?